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Can people just be friends please? Because I’m a girl I apparently cannot be friends with a guy without the whole world doing one of three things 1 - assuming we are fucking 2 - assuming we are GOING to be fucking very soon 3 - suggesting that if we are not currently fucking, we ought to be.
Without fail I become friends with a guy and apparently those are the only three possible outcomes.
I am friends with my co-worker. We have a loose and casual dynamic. He has the same name as my boyfriend, it is the source of joking but it is clear we are not attracted to each other and our friendship is just a friendship.
The manager of another store comes into our store every morning, so knows both of us. And suggested to our boss that I “want his bod.”
My manager’s reaction was to text my coworker and tell him this and tell him that he should definitely try to be a homewrecker i.e. RUIN MY RELATIONSHIP and try to “go for” me because HE deserves to be happy.
1) I don’t want him. That’s been made clear. I really truly don’t. 2) HE deserves to be happy? But I don’t? Like if you set someone to ruin my relationship I’m pretty sure that directly fucks with my happiness. Why is his more important than mine? 3) WHY does anyone else consider this their business?! I am seriously so angry.
Anonymous asked: that's one of the things i hate about being mixed with white. because my white family sort of disregards the fact that i'm half asian and they're always saying bad stuff about asians. they also do the thing you said in your response to the other anon that they disregard the other half of you (in your case your blackness). a bunch of times they would say things like "oh ___ group (usually asian people) do ___ (annoying thing)...except for your family." like you just insulted a group of people????
Dude i feel this a lot. I’m mixed Mexican and white and while my family isn’t guilty of it,other people in my life do. Some assume I’m just white because they don’t know. Some know I’m Mexican and ignore it by making racial comments and Jokes and just otherwise lumping me in as white.
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I am a third shift employee at a gas station, my employer often schedules me to work alone on shift for upwards of six hours in the middle of the night. For the most part I don’t mind. And then…… (the following are actual things men have said to me at my job while I was on the clock and did nothing more suggestive than saying “have a good night” after I ring their purchases up.)
…And then I put lotion on my hands which happens to be scented, and a guy walks in and says “Ooh girl you smell nice” Me: oh, thanks, it’s just lotion. Him: “You smell SO good. You’re LUCKY you’re on the clock.”
…And then a customer comes in the door behind me and stands at the counter to my back. When I tell him the register is around the other side, and ask if I Can help him find anything, his response is “no, baby, I’m just enjoying the view” while staring at my ass.
….and then I ask a guy if there is anything else I can get for him along with his purchase and he responds “I’ll take YOU home with me.”
…and then a guy asks for my phone number. Me: “Oh, sorry, no. I actually have a boyfriend.” Him: “Oh really. What other excuses are you going to make up for me?” Me: “It isn’t an excuse. I have a boyfriend. WE have been together for eight years.” Him: “Uh-huh, so if I come in here and you don’t have a boyfriend tomorrow?” Me: “I will have a boyfriend tomorrow.” Him: *walks off muttering at me while his friend behind him starts in with comments about my looks*
….and then a guy comes in on a night when I am not alone and have a guy coworker with me. And he proceeds to interrogate my coworker about me. And lewdly gesture to me and make allusiosn to whether he and I have sex in the store. And when my coworker says no and tries to end the conversastion he continues with “come on, why not. I know you gotta set of keys to the store.”
These are just a few glaring examples of the way I am treated. Every night. In my work uniform while I am just trying to do my job and not get hit on by random ass guys who apparently don’t respect “no”. These are not compliments. Some of them are flat out threatening. None of them respect the fact that I have made it clear that I am not interested. This i why I need feminism.
The Dangerous Women Project, a global campaign of the Institute for Advanced Studies in the Humanities at the University of Edinburgh, is curating reflective responses to the moral question: “What does it mean to be a ‘dangerous woman’?”
The notion that women are dangerous singularly or collectively suffuses many historical eras, heritages, and aspects of everyday life. But behind this epithet asks numerous critical questions about the characteristics, disunities, identities, and power struggles with which women experience today.
blurrylolcat asked: Hi there ! I am writing to you because of the post on "strong female character" which I found really interesting and clear, thanks ! For a coming debate on a French podcast on table-top RPGs, I need to defend exactly this point of view, that creating oversexualized violent female characters does not serve feminism and is not the same as creating human being non-cliché female characters. Therefore, would have some additional readings on the subject ? It would be really really useful ! Thanks !
Gonna throw this one to the other mods, H in particular. -C
The third map is really freaking me out. “Don’t have to be medically accurate.” WHAT.
This explains the shit sex education I received. So glad my mother taught me a lot of important, medically accurate things. -C
Okay so people have a lot of shit to say about Iowa a lot of the time and I feel like people have this general idea that we’re kind of backwards and ignorant. But look at this. Iowa is not included in any of those maps. I received EXCELLENT sex ed through public schools in Iowa, starting with basic information about puberty, etc. in fourth grade. I’ve had good and bad teachers in the subject, just like any other subject, but overall, it’s soooo much better than abstinence only sex ed or none at all. And honestly, if a state like Iowa, which is heavily rural and fairly religious can have good, accurate, age-appropriate, and informative sex ed, then I see NO reason why even liberal states are still not providing this for their students. (We were also the fourth state in the nation to legalize gay marriage just sayin’)
FUCK YEAH. Comprehensive sex ed ftw. I did my sex ed over the course of several school systems(I was raised active-duty army) and I would say my experience was similar, mostly. I was quite lucky. -C
H Here. After dicsussing with my fellow admins, we’re going to bring FYIFLAG out of Hiatus. Keep an eye out on your dash for updates from us, and feel free tosend us asks and messages, we’re coming back and it’s gonna be good. <3
