Fuck Yeah I Fight Like a Girl.

Because fuck you if you don't see us as equals.

20 Jul

xxluxuriaxx:

xxluxuriaxx:

When you enter a chat room and it’s apparent you’re female so all these guys start messaging you liek “hey baby you so fine baby”


And then there’s those that message you like they’re just tryin to chat and be cool, but they get all mad when you bring up your s/o like, can I not just chat online without it being some kind of sexual endeavor?

"And ur boyfriend doesn’t get mad at you for this chat app?" 

Like no. I just said I just wanna chat with people. Clearly you can’d understand that “chat with” is not the same as “hook up with” so bye bye.

I mean I just can’t get over this. Some of my best friends are people I met through social media/chatting. Back then there was always the threat of these people but they weren’t as prominent (in my own personal experience). 
I literally downloaded this app and had the above experiences. I made my profile say clearly I both  have a boyfriend AND don’t wish to be contacted for sex/flirting/relationships. But it’s STILL HAPPENING. 
These men don’t care that I’m a human being. They notice I’m a woman and think that means it’s okay to bombard me with propositions and harass me when I shoot them down.
Ugh. - H

14 Jul

Anonymous said: I need feminism because being a gay man is more accepted than being a lesbian (being sexualized doesn't count as acceptance) and being a trans male is more accepted than being a trans female. why? Liking masculinity over femininity is seen as acceptable and understandable while liking femininity over masculinity isn't

oh-snap-pro-choice:

antifeministturtle:

feminismbecause:

.

Wrong. If you are a gay man, you are extremely discriminated and shun by almost every society. If you are a lesbian, it means guys think you’re hot and you’re a feminist.

'Being sexualized isn't acceptance'

"BUHT PEOPLE THINK YOURE HOT AND YOURE REDUCED DOWN TO SKETCHY PORN OR STEREOTYPES THATS ACCEPTANCE WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT’

-Ash

AUGH THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. This is amazing esp after the thing I posted earlier about hypersexualizing lesbians and claiming that’s “acceptance” UGH.

14 Jul

Anonymous said: YOU'RE TAGGING A LOT OF SHIRTLESS WOMEN AS NSFW. You find it extremely sexist for a guy to grab your arm to pull you out of the way of a crowd but think it's not sexist to tag ARTISTIC pictures of topless women as NSFW?? Hypocrite much.

firstly, understand that there are three different moderators here and these tags and posts are not all coming from the same person. 

secondly, these pictures get tagged nsfw simply out of respect for followers and browsers who may be in a public place and need to filter pictures with any nudity out of them. 
For example, administrators at many schools and libraries may go so far as to revoke computer privileges to people who are noted to have what other patrons may complain as being nude photos up. 

It’s not a matter of sexism, it’s a matter of respect for followers who need those tags for filters in certain situations. 

OH, and my complaints about the guy grabbing my arm to pull me out of the way had less to do with him doing so and more to do with him doing it without my consent. — H 

14 Jul

gyorklady:

fuckyeahifightlikeagirl:

today I was at a baby’s birthday party. Many family and friends of family members were there and several of them brought their children. 

One boy who was about 5 or 6 repeatedly kept trying to “motorboat” his mother’s breasts. When she told him to stop he got angry and said “if you tell me to stop I’m just going to keep doing it.” 

To said mom: 
Teach your child about consent and the importance of “No” in all of its forms. It is in no way okay for your son to say that to you or ANY person who has made it explicitly clear that they do not want their behavior to continue. 

To all parents: 

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT CONSENT

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT CONSENT. 

FUCKING TEACH YOUR FUCKING CHILDREN ABOUT FUCKING CONSENT. -H

What I find interesting about this post is that it is never brought up what the mother’s reaction was to what her son said. We never know if she actually told him “No” or not.

I just saw this reblog. 
The mother did basically nothing.She DID tell him “no” and “stop” first, at which point he said he would keep doing it if she said stop, he did it again, she rolled her eyes he  ran off.  She rolled her eyes at the boy, he did it again and then ran off to play with some of the other kids at the party. She didn’t say anything to him (at least at that moment, I can’t speak for if she brought it up to him later on once they weren’t surrounded by people) about that being wrong or respecting people when they say no or stop. Nothing. She rolled her eyes and they both moved on. 


14 Jul

I am super super super sick of seeing “Pro-lesbian” pictures that sexualize lesbians.  
You know the posters I’m talking about. Two traditional media image hot girls making out topless and something along the lines of “How is this wrong?”
The message is supposed to look like it’s pro-lesbian, and therefore pro-gay. But in reality it’s a campaign angled towards straight men who fetishize lesbians. (You know, those guys that say “I can totally understand lesbians, chicks are hot. But two guys doin’ it, that’s just gross.) 

Why is that the campaign that we see so much of? Why couldn’t it be two actual lesbians enjoying life and being happy. Probably with the kids they’re raising together, and the same caption “How is this wrong?” 

Why don’t we have pictures like that. Lesbian moms and their kids smiling and representing a happy family. Gay dads and their kids enjoying a day together. 


Oh. Wait, I’ve got lots of those pictures, because that IS my family…imageWhat’s immoral about a happy family like this?

imageHow is this wrong?

image

These are my moms. This is my actual family.
Making the campaign so hypersexual denies that these are real, tangible humans with lives and families and goals, not just hot half naked chicks paid to kiss for a picture. It makes me so grumpy I die a little inside everytime I see one of those stupid posters. -H. 


PS: I don’t have any pictures of me and my dads online, they exist but somewhere in the nexus of phones and different people’s records. I’ll find them one day. But believe that they are totally adorable together.

05 Jul

today I was at a baby’s birthday party. Many family and friends of family members were there and several of them brought their children. 

One boy who was about 5 or 6 repeatedly kept trying to “motorboat” his mother’s breasts. When she told him to stop he got angry and said “if you tell me to stop I’m just going to keep doing it.” 

To said mom: 
Teach your child about consent and the importance of “No” in all of its forms. It is in no way okay for your son to say that to you or ANY person who has made it explicitly clear that they do not want their behavior to continue. 

To all parents: 

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT CONSENT

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT CONSENT. 

FUCKING TEACH YOUR FUCKING CHILDREN ABOUT FUCKING CONSENT. -H

03 Jul

Hi there, H here.

Bullet points for today: 

I ran into a guy who actually recognized that I’m not white. It was pretty refreshing. He’s a vague acquaintance, and asked me about it in a decently respectful way and we had a nice discussion about how white folks just assume I’m white because I’ve got some white heritage and I can pass as such. I don’t typically complain but I often feel like my heritage is being denied because “being white” trumps my Latina and my Asian heritage.  
Ten seconds after that though he did something that made me furious. we were at the bus station which is a markedly busy place to be. And a bus full of people pulled up behind me and he decided it was okay to grab me by the upper arm to direct me out of the way. It came from what was supposed to be a nice place. His intention was to make sure that I didn’t get trampled by a bunch of people. But he grabbed me by the upper arm which just feels aggressive/possessive and he touched me without my permission AND It was clear that he felt the need to do so because I’m a woman and he’s a man and he needs to “protect” me as if I can’t fend for myself (or, y’know take a step or two forward of my own accord). It really bothered me, and even when I stepped out of his arms reach, he did it again. 

- I’ve also started my own body posi blog. This may be a shameless plug, but I only have a handful of followers and half of those are unwelcome bbw porn blogs that won’t respectfully unfollow, and since Tumblr won’t allow me to block people from following me there’s not much I can do about it /whine* (I’m having the same problem on my personal blog go figure.) Anyway. There’s not much there but I’m just getting started and if any are interested in following body posi blogs then I’d super love it if you checked mine out : http://www.big-bold-beautiful-love.tumblr.com/

- I’m having an awful day in general. But tomorrow is mine and Boyfriend’s six year anniversary, so it should be far better. I’ve been lucky enough to stick with a guy who respects me and supports me and helps me to grow and learn. Six years behind us, many more ahead. /sappy love bit. 

-H 

25 Jun

cassandraoh:

Friendly reminder that Ramadan is on our doorstep; out of respect for those observing the holiday and fasting, tagging food and food-related posts is a basic courtesy

25 Jun

sosuperawesome:

Vincent Van Gogh, Pablo Picasso, Frida Kahlo and Salvador Dali. Art dolls by Valentina Felce in Florida, US

24 Jun

smartgirlsattheparty:

A smart girl I never knew about until now:

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/21/business/stephanie-l-kwolek-inventor-of-kevlar-is-dead-at-90.html?_r=0

Thank you for inventing the primary source of my love, joy, and my artistic career.  -C