Street harassment is not a compliment.
This! There is a HUGE difference between a genuine compliment and the shit idiots say to you in the street.
I can’t express this enough.
Two different examples
One: I Was sitting on my mom’s front porch and a guy came by running his dog. He stopped and asked my name, and I told him it was Haley and he goes “Haley, you’re very pretty.”
I smiled and thanked him. He asked if I had a boyfriend. I foolishly told him I did (though I was newly single) and always wondered about him, because he was so nice and charming and genuine.
Two: I was working the counter at a fast food joint and a male customer came in and immediately started making lewd comments about my ass and asking me “Why I don’t wear tighter pants to show off that ass” And generally being very rude and roudy to the point where I had to leave the building because I was so uncomfortable. When I came back in, on my way to the back he tried to ask for my number and called me a snob when I wouldn’t acknowledge him.
There is a very big difference between a genuine compliment and harassment. And yes, we can tell, and you will see a noticeable difference in our reactions. -H
That moment where you’re stuck really really hoping you magically find $4,000 on the ground because school in USA is really expensive and your school and financial aid bureaucrats don’t care about students as much as they care about money. Behhhh
ohyeah. And how if I don’t find this money immediately so I can go to summer classes, there’s no chance of getting aid back for fall which means no ability to pay my rent. AWESOME.- H
samuel-vimes asked: I just looked at your icon properly for the first time omfg I am laughing so hard "sup"
THANK YOU FOR BEING THE ONE TO BRING IT UP <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
I’ve been laughing at it for years help -C
Here’s Oh Joy Sex Toy's latest comic about using sex toys while in a relationship.
For more information, check out my post on Using Sex Toys with a Partner
I don’t think I can ever pass up reblogging OJST. I’ve posted about Erika’s work here before. The message of this one is a great and positive one and the way she portrays it in her comic is warm and inviting in the best ways. Signal Boost :D -H
"Your too fat."
"I didn’t know [insert character] was black!"
"Why don’t you do more black cosplays?"
"Cosplay to your size!"
"I don’t think that looks right on you, why don’t you cosplay [insert character] instead?"
"Why is [insert character] black? They’re not black in the show."
"You shouldn’t cross-play, it looks weird on you."
"Your boobs are too big for [insert character]."
To everyone who as ever posted a comment or question like this, my answer:
I am a black plus size female cosplayer, if you don’t like it… well honestly I don’t care. The more you comment like an idiot, the more it feeds my will power to prove I’m an amazing cosplayer, not matter what you say. I may have days, or even weeks when I feel down about myself, but that will never stop me from doing what I love. I may have large boobs, chubby stomach, double chin, hair on my face, dark spots around my face and body, and a flat butt, but I rock any cosplay I put on. So grow up, and get out of my face. <3
Rock it! <3 Your costumes are amaazing, I’m super jealous I love love love cosplay. -H
Hey followers of FYIFLAG H here. It’s been a minute, I know.
I’m trying to really step it up a little more here and be more active, as much as my schedule allows.
So what I’d like from you is questions and suggestions, I never really gave a good chance to get-to-know-your-Mod So if there’s anything you’re curious about me personally (within taste — to my own discretion, but know that I’m basically an open book) and my experiences and/or goals, whatever, ask away!
I’d also really love to hear from you all, what would you like to see me post more of? I’m a little sporadic with the things I post but I know that I lean a lot towards the body-posi, empowerment, and rants based off of personal encounters, but is there anything that you as our followers would like to see more of from me, or anything I can do to make my posts stand out or more enjoyable to you?
This blog is for us, but it’s also for you. I want all of our followers to feel appreciated and safe and like we post things that are relevant and interesting to you, so go on, fill up our ask box!
Many thanks and warm fuzzies - Love, H.